Complications When Moving After Divorce
Getting a divorce is like hitting the reset button on your life. Without your marriage, you are more free to decide what kind of person you are and what you want to do. For some, the best way to start a new life is to move to a new town. There are many reasons why people relocate after divorce:
- They are pursuing new jobs or careers;
- They want to distance themselves from their former spouses;
- They want to move closer to family or friends;
- It is easier to redefine themselves in a place where people do not know them; and
- They are finally free to move to a location where they have long wanted to live.
However, moving to a new town is a difficult adjustment for anyone, let alone someone who has just ended his or her marriage. Before deciding to move after your divorce, you should be aware of the complications that come with it.
Parenting Issues
The largest obstacle to relocating after your divorce will be if you have children who you want to move with you. Illinois law requires any parent living in the Chicago area to receive permission to relocate his or her child more than 25 miles from their current home. A court will consider whether the move is in the best interest of the child in terms of living in an unfamiliar area and being farther away from the other parent. If the court decides your child should not relocate, you will need to choose between moving and being the primary parent to your child.
Personal Adjustment
When you move to a new town after your divorce, it is common to feel lonely. You may lose touch with your old friends and have difficulty finding new friends. Your loneliness is heightened by the fact that you are newly single. You may initially have second thoughts about your decision to move, but that does not mean it was a mistake. It will take time to adjust to a new home, and you can help yourself by:
- Being open to meeting new people and having new experiences;
- Reminding yourself of the reasons you chose this location to move to;
- Continuing your communications with family and old friends who respond to you; and
- Discovering new interests that you were not free to explore during your marriage.
A New Beginning
In order to start your life over after divorce, you need financial security from your divorce settlement. A Kane County divorce attorney at Goostree Law Group can help you with the division of your marital property and other financial matters. Schedule a free consultation by calling 630-584-4800.
Source:
http://www.divorcemag.com/blog/starting-over-after-divorce-how-to-survive-a-move-to-a-new-city