How to Co-Parent After A Divorce

 Posted on June 16, 2013 in Divorce

Divorce is stressful both financially and emotionally – and adding children to the mix makes a divorce even more complicated. It is important for the children to be able to feel secure, loved and like a priority to both parents. However, parents’ feelings for each other can add stress to raising the children in two different homes after a divorce. Though the parents may dislike one another, it is imperative to focus on the children as the parents' relationship changes from marriage to divorce. All frustrations and disappointments should be expressed when the children are not around. Children should never be put in the middle or used as a messenger between the two parents. Doing so would create awkwardness and confusion for the children. The key to a successful co-parenting in a divorce is communication. Although the relationship was once personal and intimate, the divorced couple must now become more professional and straight to the point. Making requests rather than demands helps keep a neutral team approach. As communication moves forward, it must be done with self control and open ears. Be sure to commit to communicating on a consistent basis about the children. Topics such as discipline, schedules and rules can be done successfully in both homes if parents are open and honest with one another and keep the children’s best interest at heart. If you are going through a divorce and are finding it hard to communicate with your soon to be ex, it might be in your best interest to contact a Kane County divorce attorney who can help you set guidelines and find a way for the communication to work. No one should have to go through a divorce without help.

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