Learning from Divorce Before Remarrying

 Posted on December 22, 2017 in Prenuptial & Postnuptial Agreements

After finishing your divorce, you likely feel that you never want to go through that experience again. Divorce is naturally cumbersome, uncomfortable and depressing. However, many divorcees have not given up on the institution of marriage if they meet the right person. You may feel more cautious about getting married, which is actually a smart approach. Something went wrong in your first marriage, and you want to avoid making the same mistakes. Your divorce should serve as a lesson if you plan to remarry.

Be Patient

The reasons for your failed marriage should give you a better idea of the qualities you are looking for in a partner and what you want to avoid. With this profile in mind, you may feel emboldened to enter a serious relationship with the first person who checks all of those boxes. However, your first marriage taught you that it takes time to learn someone’s true nature. You likely felt that your first spouse was a perfect match before you married. Be more patient in getting to know your partner in a new relationship before entering a commitment.

Counseling

Poor communication is one of the main factors that leads to a breakdown in a marriage and divorce. If you have found someone you intend to marry, invite him or her to attend premarital counseling. It may seem unnecessary to attend counseling before problems have developed in your relationship, but it is easier to communicate about personal issues when you are not angry with each other. During counseling, you will discuss topics that can cause conflict in a marriage, such as:

• Money;
• Intimacy;
• Family expectations;
• Future goals; and
• What you want from the relationship.

Premarital counseling can help you develop communication skills with your partner so you can better handle conflict.

Prenuptial Agreement

You do not enter a marriage expecting to divorce, but your first marriage should have taught you that it is better to prepare for the unexpected. Creating a prenuptial agreement can settle some of the hotly debated property issues during divorce negotiations. As a divorcee, it is particularly prudent for you to have a prenuptial agreement because you have several assets that you accumulated from your previous marriage. The agreement will allow you to:

• Identify your non-marital properties;
• Determine how you will divide your marital properties; and
• Establish expectations for spousal maintenance.

Safe Approach

Statistics show that second marriages are more likely to end in divorce than the first. A Kane County family law attorney at Goostree Law Group can discuss the benefits of getting a prenuptial agreement and help you create it. Schedule a free consultation by calling 630-584-4800.

Source:

http://www.divorcemag.com/blog/premarital-counseling-helps-prevent-future-divorce