Supporting a Friend through a Divorce

 Posted on September 09, 2013 in Divorce

Watching a friend or family member suffer through a divorce and all the things that come with it is difficult. Sometimes it is hard to know just what to say or do. However, according to the Huffington Post, there are a few things that you should never do when it comes to helping someone come with divorce.  Remain Neutral You may have known your friend since childhood or she may be a new acquaintance. Whatever the case may be, remember that you are only hearing half of the story. You have to be careful not to take sides in the situation. You do not want to condone any wrongdoing. Don’t be afraid to let her know that you are her friend but that you don’t intend to choose sides.  Don’t Trash the Ex You should be there to listen to what your friend is going through. However, you should avoid trash talking the soon to be ex. Firstly, you are not in the position to judge and you do not want to make matters worse. Secondly, if you declare it open season to say all of the terrible things that you can think of about the ex, what happens if they decided to reconcile the relationship? That can lead to some awkward feelings.  You are not a Lawyer Even if you have been through a divorce yourself, you are not the divorce guru and you are not qualified to give legal advice. You don’t want to mislead your friend or family member when it comes to something that is so important. If your friend has questions about the legal process, refer him or her to call an experienced Kane County family law attorney that can provide them with the answers that they are looking for. That is what a good friend should do.