Posted on July 14, 2018 in Child Custody

Parents commonly disagree on how much supervision and protection their children need. While many parents seek a balance between freedom and control, some parents skew heavily towards one side. Helicopter parents believe their constant involvement protects their children and guides them towards the right path. Free-range parents believe that giving their children independence teaches them self-sufficiency. Both parenting styles have some merit, but laws favor helicopter parenting over free-range parenting because allowing a child to roam freely can be viewed as neglect. A divorcing parent who believes in a free-range style may also be at a disadvantage when a court determines the allocation of parental responsibilities.

Definition of Neglect

Parents in a divorce may accuse each other of neglect as a reason why they should be the children’s primary parent. Illinois has a legal definition of child neglect that includes:

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 Posted on July 10, 2018 in Divorce

From the perspective of Western secular society, arranged marriages seem immoral and unlikely to succeed. How could someone feel fulfilled in a marriage that has been forced upon him or her? Women are sometimes viewed as victims in arranged marriages because the practice commonly occurs in religious and conservative cultures that treat women as subservient. Forcing someone into an arranged marriage does not prevent him or her from using secular laws to seek a divorce. However, people in arranged marriages may feel pressured to remain in the marriage, even if they are unhappy.

Being Shunned

Arranged marriage is a tradition that is rooted in people’s religious and cultural beliefs. Parents agree to the arrangement because they believe that is what is best for their child and family. People who reject their arranged marriages are also rejecting their culture and may be ostracized as a result. A family may be angry at a relative who decides to divorce because:

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 Posted on July 05, 2018 in Divorce

Your mind can convince itself that you are not feeling stressed or depressed, but your body is more difficult to fool. Thus, your body may surprise you by feeling ill during your divorce. If your divorce is not causing you some stress, you either have nerves of steel or are completely oblivious to the high stakes of your divorce. Stress puts your body on a state of high alert as it prepares to react to a real or perceived threat. The constant stress of a divorce can wear your body down, and the mental strain may cause you to make poor decisions that do additional harm to your body. Here are seven symptoms that divorce-related stress can cause:

1. Weakened Immune System: People who experience excessive stress are often more susceptible to contracting colds and illnesses. Stress strains your body and makes it less capable of defending against sickness.
2. Fatigue and Insomnia: High levels of stress may cause your body to secrete hormones that tire you out but also make it more difficult for you to fall asleep. Insomnia can cause additional fatigue and stress, which perpetuates the cycle.

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 Posted on July 02, 2018 in Child Custody

After the stress of completing your divorce, you deserve a summer vacation to help yourself relax and find some enjoyment. Just as importantly, your children need the positive experience of a summer trip as a consolation for the turmoil in their personal lives. However, it is different to plan a family vacation as a single parent after divorce. You must consider the rights of your co-parent and your own financial limitations when deciding on a trip.

Parenting Schedule

Before you plan a long vacation with your children, you should remember that the parenting schedule from your divorce dictates when your children must be with their other parent. The schedule may conflict with vacation plans because:

• It is uncommon for parents to have a block of uninterrupted parenting time that lasts more than four or five days; and

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 Posted on June 29, 2018 in Child Support

Each parent’s net income helps determine the total child support obligation owed to pay for the expenses of raising their shared children. Illinois’ Supreme Court has defined child support income as a gain to a parent’s wealth that allows him or her to better support the children. Income commonly comes from recurring sources such as job wages and gifts but also includes one-time, lump-sum payments, such as a personal injury award. A sudden gain of thousands of dollars changes the amount of money a parent has available to pay child support, at least temporarily. However, Illinois courts do not count the entire personal injury award as part of a parent’s child support income. A recent case helped define how much of the award can go towards child support.

Break Down

The total award or settlement in a personal injury case is meant to pay for specific damages related to the injury, including:

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 Posted on June 25, 2018 in Divorce

The effects of divorce can be difficult for spouses to handle, both emotionally and financially. However, some spouses seem to feel a greater effect and have greater difficulty adjusting. The fairness of the divorce agreement and the personality traits of each party can determine how people respond to divorce. Divorce researchers also wonder whether a spouse’s gender can predict how a divorce will affect him or her. Divorcees seem more likely to face certain challenges depending on their gender, but this idea may be based on gender stereotypes.

Problems for Women

Wives are often thought of as being more sensitive to their emotions and having less lucrative careers than their husbands. When applicable, these traits can have negative consequences for women:

• Women may identify themselves more by their marriage and family role than men do;
• A woman who made her own ambitions secondary to her marriage is less capable of supporting herself;

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 Posted on June 21, 2018 in Children and Divorce

The aftermath of a high-conflict divorce can leave both parties with emotional wounds that take time to heal. However, the wounds inflicted on the children of the divorce can be deeper and affect a child’s mental health and relationship with his or her parents. When parents fail to shelter their children from their high-conflict divorce, the children can become resentful towards their parents and disillusioned towards relationships in general. Parents must act quickly to repair the damage that their contentious divorce has caused their children.

Problems with High-Conflict Divorce

Parents may believe they are doing enough to protect their children from their divorce arguments by not lashing out at them. However, witnessing the conflict is still damaging to the children. Divorcing parents can also indirectly involve their children in their conflicts by disparaging each other around the children or using the children as messengers. Parents who are absorbed in their high-conflict divorce may fail to provide adequate attention to their children’s emotional needs. As a result, the children may:

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 Posted on June 19, 2018 in Divorce and Finances

Much of your work during your divorce will go towards ensuring that you are financially viable afterward. Through the division of property, you will lose assets that you may have been counting on for both your short-term stability and long-term investing. Holding onto key assets and establishing fair support payments is vital in reworking your financial plan. However, your divorce agreement is a starting point and not the end goal. You must follow through with wise decisions so as not to squander your hard work during the divorce.

Immediate Actions

When your divorce becomes officials, there are several changes you must make to acknowledge that you are no longer married:

1. Canceling Joint Credit Cards: You do not want your credit rating to be tied to the financial decisions that your former spouse makes moving forward. If you had shaky credit with your spouse, establishing your own line of credit will help you improve your record.

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 Posted on June 15, 2018 in Child Custody

Father’s Day can have added significance for both a dad and his children after divorce. Fathers are more often the parent that receives less parenting time after the divorce. So, the holiday is a time dedicated to reaffirming the relationship between a divorced father and his children. Unfortunately, divorced fathers do not always see their children on Father’s Day:

• The father may live far enough away that visits are difficult;
• The schedules of either the father or the children may interfere with a visit; or
• The father may have restricted access to the children as part of the parenting plan.

There are ways that fathers and their children can ease the emotional pain of not being together on Father’s Day. In some cases, the mother can help, as well:

1. Choose a Makeup Date: There is no law saying that you can only celebrate Father’s Day on a specific day of the year. Fathers and their children can pick a date that works for them as their unofficial Father’s Day. They can have all of the same festivities that would be part of a normal Father’s Day celebration. The only difference between the new date and the official date is that the father and his children may need to plan more things on their own. They will not be able to rely on public events recognizing Father’s Day.

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 Posted on June 12, 2018 in Divorce

There are situations where the decision to divorce is fairly obvious and the best choice for your own health and safety. Divorce is necessary if you have an abusive spouse that is a danger to yourself and your children. It is also understandable if your spouse has betrayed you in a way that you do not feel you can forgive, such as infidelity. However, there are many instances when the two spouses are unsure whether divorce is the right decision. Once spouses start the process of divorce, it is very rare that they change their minds and continue their marriage. It is normal to have doubts when considering divorce, but you must identify whether they are enough of a reason to stay in your marriage. Here are three reasons spouses hesitate to divorce and possible arguments against those doubts:

1. The Divorce Will Hurt My Children: It is undeniable that your divorce will affect your children and likely in a negative way. There will be tears, anger and general confusion about why you decided to divorce. However, you must consider what damage your unhealthy marriage is doing to your children. Are you openly fighting with your spouse? Are you often agitated because you are unhappy in your marriage? What example is your marriage setting for your children? You may become a better parent by eliminating the negativity of your marriage.

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